Self Rejection and Self Worth

Isaiah 12:2, “Surely God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid. The Lord, the Lord himself, is my strength and my defense; he has become my salvation.”

Why do we care what others think about us? Why do we care when others judge us; the way we look, the way we talk, our interests? We become so full into trying to please others in our appearance that we forget who we are and why we are here.

It hurts to know and see others judge you. I’ve experienced much of it, and it breaks my heart, honestly. Over the years, I cared about every little thing about myself. I felt as if I had to be the “perfect” image like the one the world was putting out. But as days, weeks, months, and years passed on, little by little, lesser things began to care to me. I knew the way I was raised, and that was to be myself.

When I was younger, I was always really shy. But along with my shyness, I had a big heart. Anytime I would see someone sitting by themselves, I always would be the one to change that. If it was just me and a few people, I would talk my face off.. almost literally. And as young kids, we could talk about anything to anyone without any thought because we all thought of each other as equal. Many days I wish I could go back to being a first grader with no cares in the world besides trying to get the 500 book medal. But as time passed, everyone got older and started realizing that every person is different. I started becoming more out going because I thought people had no care for a 3rd grader who is categorized as a “nerd” in school, the smallest kid in the grade, and a worrier for anything possible that you can think of. I was the kid who would worry their butt off to the point where I would almost cry if I forgot my homework at home (and sometimes if I forgot a pencil.. it was bad…..).

By the time I got to middle school, I met a girl who was just like the me I used to be. She was one of the sweetest girls I have ever met. One day in the hall, I noticed a group of girls whispering, laughing, and pointing at the girl. Let me just say, I HATE gossip and people being rude. So the girl that was getting pointed at, I walked up to her to talk to her. I was hoping if I talked to her that she wouldn’t notice what was going on behind her. Also, I figured she might need a friend. Once we started having conversation together, I learned she didn’t have the life you would dream of having. She lived in a foster home with so many rough things that had been going on in her life. Family was never great and friends were never big in her life. So over the next few weeks of getting closer, I started realizing how easy it was for her to block out what people said about her. She never had one thought of changing who she was just because some people thought she wasn’t “perfect”. But to me, that girl was much more perfect than any other person I’ve ever met. She’s perfect in her heart, and that is what matters. Unfortunately, she moved away around November of that year, but I know if I were to see her today, she would still have her same strong, passionate, and courageous character.

From meeting this girl, I learned a lesson out of it. We all need to realize that our Lord our God created us in His image. We are all made in His specialty, and anything we place down, we are placing down upon one of His amazing creations.

Our fears of being rejected usually come from our own self rejection. We could look in the mirror and see our own personal flaws that we don’t like. Just because we see it, we think about it, dwell over it, and fear that others will think the same over our “flaws”. This is all our self rejection that eventually leads to rejection. Two words: LOVE YOURSELF!

So why do we care? We are supposed to be on this world sharing His gospel and preparing ourselves for the day we get to switch over to eternity with Jesus Christ to praise Him, love Him, and be in awe by Him. We are not here to be opinionated by what others think are “flaws”. This world has presented the wrong message.

As children of God, we shouldn’t have to worry about what others think about us. We shouldn’t try to change ourselves.

When others make unkind remarks, or say unkind things, it really affects people. Be kind, love others, pray more.


Sydney Vickery

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